If you have the power to coerce others, maybe you will use it. After all, that's how we see structures, right?
So maybe you need to try, when you are without might, to experience the most basic interaction with others.
Maybe you need to try to let others upset you.
It's so easy to try to control. It's so easy to see others as deliverers of what we need. We find ways physically and psychologically to extract these things.
Sometimes they want us to.
We must try to let others not like us. It is their right.
Is charm an invitation or a command?