It's true. We grant to others the power to control us.
But it is so very hard not to grant it to them.
Look at the family. See injustice there so you can see it in grander things.
We love others. Can they hurt us as we love them? Yes we can. We wish we could not love through damage, but many of us do and we pay dearly as we nevertheless continue to love.
Some of us leave. Some are left. We then seek again or find those who can hurt us again, control us, tell us what to do.
Where do you dominate, or are you dominated? Is it the same as with others who cudgel and herd you?
Does this make it different? Does this make it better, that you are so free to be with others? Does it not make it worse, for we can so much more easily leave. There are many ready bosses in the world. Some protect us; all injure us.